Listening to the pain of a close friend (actually
three within the last week) vent about the hurt of an ex boyfriend and the frustration
with being single inspired me to write this post for I have found that through
encouraging others, my heart is also encouraged.
Heartbreak results in one of two things:
bitterness and resentment “Why did I waste those months/years of my life?” OR
transformations of pains into trust and hope, “I do not understand, but I chose
to truth in your goodness and grace.”
Pain is all about purpose and perspective. Heartbreak is an opportunity for growth,
seeking comfort and peace in God’s promises.
His word, Romans 8:28 “And we know that in ALL things God works for the
good of those who love him, who have been called according to his
purpose.” This verse promises ALL things
will be used for good, the pain suffered and tears shed are not in vain. Cling to his word, for he is faithful.
With firm belief and unwavering trust in your
Heavenly Father’s power, wisdom, and control, the question of why becomes
irrelevant. We don’t need an answer to
trust, and too often an answer is not provided.
It is natural for our minds with seek after reason in order to
rationalize our hurt, but instead I encourage you to seek after God’s
promises. Philippians 4:29 “He will meet
ALL your needs!” Ephesians 3:20 “Now to
him who is able to do immeasurably more than we could ask or imagine, according
to his power that is at work within us.”
His word says it, I claim it as truth.
Instead of trying to rationalize the heartache or
speaking ugly of the one who hurt you, I challenge you to grow by identifying
what this relationship taught you about yourself, about your wants/needs, about
your likes/dislikes, and about what you value most. Only one man you date will ever be “the one”
the others are just valuable lessons along the way. I can confidently say that every man that has
blessed my life has taught me something, some lessons more important than
other, some lessons more painful than others, but I count it worth it for I am
wiser than I was before. I promise you
this – one-day you’ll be able to thank your ex’s for letting you go, thank them
for the lesson learned, and praise God for rescuing you. There is no room for bitterness when you are
stronger, wiser, and rescued.
The lesson learned will reflect your heart and
God’s work within you. Pray for trust,
not for clarity. We humans, are flawed,
hurt is inevitable, but be assured that God is your refuge, strength, and
protection (Psalm 46:1). I encourage you
to fix your eyes on the one who is always faithful. Be mindful, occasionally, the lesson isn’t
even about you; God trusted you to play a role in that person’s life because He
knew you were strong enough. You weren’t
called to be the answer, only the instrument.
Allow your pain to be transformed, keep faith, He holds you in his mighty, perfect hands.
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